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And the winner for rudest comment is...

2008-01-29 - 10:23 a.m.

I have to tell you what happened to me yesterday. Unfortunately, this will probably surprise no one who is or has been visibly pregnant.

First of all, I have to say that the co-worker in this tale is a very nice, well-meaning guy… but he’s infamous for putting his foot in his mouth without even realizing it. As soon as I heard his intro, indicating that even he was aware that perhaps he was treading in dangerous waters, I knew he was headed for a doozy:

Co-worker: I hope you don’t take this as an insult, but you’re really big for someone who’s only four months pregnant. That must be a really healthy baby in there!

slight pause while I briefly struggled with a “should I or shouldn’t I” impulse… “yeah, I SO SHOULD”

Me: Okay, first of all, I’m NOT only four months pregnant, I’m closer to five, and well within the recommended guidelines for weight gain during pregnancy. And secondly, there is not a pregnant woman in the WORLD who would not be insulted by that!

Co-worker (looking stricken): Really?!? Oh no, I didn’t mean it like that!

Me: Really. In fact, while I have a rather thick skin, plus I know you and know you don’t mean anything malicious by what you said, I can personally think of a couple of women who, if they had an observation like that voiced to them while they were pregnant would probably have burst into tears; maybe not right then and there in front of you, but you would definitely have made them cry by saying that to them.

Co-worker: But… but… I didn’t mean…

Me: It doesn’t matter what you might have meant, I’m telling you, for future reference, you should NEVER say that to a pregnant woman. Pregnant women have hormones running amok and, believe me, they are already very aware of the fact that they’re bigger than they normally are. They don’t need anyone pointing it out.

Co-worker: But I wasn’t saying you were getting fat

Me: Well, that’s what pretty much everyone would hear. A woman’s doctor can comment on her weight if he or she thinks it’s too much, and that’s pretty much it. You want to comment on a pregnant woman’s size? You tell her how small she is for how far along she is. That’s IT.

So, yeah, there it is. Fortunately I find the whole thing kind of funny. I told my husband and he couldn’t believe his ears. I believe his words were, “What kind of idiot says something like that to a pregnant woman?”

So far, this one wins for rudest thing said to me this pregnancy. Sadly, I don’t expect it to keep the title for the duration.

What about you guys out there? Any winners from your pregnancies?

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